In today’s episode, Melissa Ostash joins us to dig deep into something so many women quietly wrestle with: comparison, self-trust, emotional eating, body image, and that “mean girl voice” in our heads that never seems to fully go away. We talk about the power of autonomy - truly listening to your body, honoring when something “clicks,” and allowing yourself to be content instead of endlessly chasing smaller, tighter, leaner.

We also explore what happens when social media becomes a distorted mirror and how detoxing your feed can literally change how you feel about your life, your body, and your worth.

You’ll hear us talk through the mental load after massive weight loss, grieving old versions of yourself, embracing scars, skin, cellulite, and stories… and choosing joy, health, longevity, and real life over constantly shrinking. We get honest about emotional eating, survival mode, learning to feel feelings instead of numbing them, and the ongoing work of quieting that old internal critic. This conversation is raw, relatable, and full of compassion, hope, and grounded truth.

“I didn’t lose 120 pounds to hate myself again.”

- Melissa Ostash

“That mean girl voice may still show up sometimes, but the more you prove to yourself you can do hard things, the quieter she gets.”

- Melissa Ostash

This week on Here’s the Deal: Fitness, Nutrition and Mindset for People Who Don’t Want Life to Suck:

• The power of trusting yourself instead of endlessly chasing smaller
• Autonomy, contentment, and deciding you’re allowed to feel “okay” in your body
• How social media comparison steals peace - and the gift of a feed detox
• Choosing health, longevity, strength, and life experiences over perfection
• Emotional eating, survival mode, and finally letting yourself feel
• The “mean girl voice,” why it still shows up, and how to quiet it
• Why boring, consistent habits matter more than shiny trends
• The ongoing mindset work after weight loss - and why the work doesn’t stop

Connect with Melissa Ostash:

• Fit and Fueled Life on Instagram

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